Crisis in Isolation: Deescalating Domestic Violence

And just like that, most of us have shifted to a “work from home” self-quarantine society. This is unprecedented territory for many of us.

Some of us may handle this shift differently than others. Introverts who typically revel in quiet isolation will be content, right in their element.  Although other introverts, like my lovely wife, may now be trapped in a house full of family members 24/7. Extroverts may struggle without the daily social interactions which they thrive on.  Sports fans are grieving and have few positive outlets left to engage in. Many spouses will be together more than they have been since honeymoon days. We parents are now dealing with stir crazy kids full time.  And we’re all just trying to figure out how to live, learn, and work in a virtual world while living in our real world at home.

We may feel off kilter because of unfamiliar routines, our work life melding into our home life, and either a great increase or decrease of alone time (depending on your situation). All the while, uncertainty about our risk of illness looms over us. And unexpected financial situations from drastic job changes or unemployment can further heighten our stress and anxiety.  As these negative emotions increase, our defenses naturally go up. We can find ourselves more on edge and short of patience. This can add up to a large ticking time bomb just waiting for a spark.

So what can we do to put out the fuse?  If we feel ourselves losing control, or if a loved one is emotionally raw, what can we do?  In more mild situations, a great first step is to contact a local therapist for help.  They have insightful techniques to help us view our situation in healthy ways.

The Reno Gazette Journal[i] recently wrote an article in which they quoted a marriage and family counselor out of Valdeston, Georgia, Mark Webb. His advice during this time is threefold:

  1. Communication
  2. Patience
  3. Focusing on the long term

And I would add a fourth one:

  • Hope.

Effective communication begins with active listening (listening to understand rather than listening to respond). Focusing on connection can unite us and draw us together. We can love with our hearts, think with our brains, and hope with our souls.

Unfortunately, many situations escalate rapidly. Before the world started self-isolating, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men had at some point been victims of violence by an intimate partner. Incidents of domestic violence are already increasing with so many of us sheltering in place. During this pandemic we may feel as if we are losing control, and we will search for ways to cope. Most will seek healthy activities like exercise, cleaning, writing, or art, but some will force their control on those around them in unhealthy or hostile ways.  If a situation at home becomes unsafe; if you fear for your emotional or physical safety, I plead with you to seek help from any of these resources below. 

Please call 911 if you’re in immediate danger.

Nevada 211 dial “211” or text zip code to: 898211

Crisis Support Services of Nevada 1-800-273-8255 or text to: 839863

NAMI Nevada crisis line: 1-775-470-5600

National Domestic Violence hotline 1-800-799-7233

Crisis Text Line text to: 741741

House of Ruth Maryland

Safe Horizons 1-800-621-4673

Suicide Lifeline 1-800-273-8255[ii]

If you feel on edge, and unable to control your own anger or actions, please seek help from the resources above immediately, before you put yourself or others in danger. You can overcome this tumultuous time! You can protect those you love by seeking help. However, even if you’ve already hurt someone you love, it’s not too late. There is still help out there for you and your family. Hopefully you seek help before things escalate, but if not, and legal charges are filed, I can help you navigate through that process too.   

In this time of isolation we can still unite against domestic violence. We check-in on friends and extended family.  We can keep an eye on our neighbors. We can protect our own family from ourselves or our spouse by reaching out for help before tensions escalate. Together we can make a difference in the lives of those around us. 

[i] Love in the time of coronavirus: Couples at home find friction instead of sparks, John D’Anna, Arizona Republic. Reno Gazette Journal 3/19/2020.

[ii] Home isolation is fertile ground for domestic abuse, Alia E. Dastagir, USA Today, 3/19/2020

Justice v. Compassion

As an immigration and criminal attorney in Nevada, I am bound to the laws of our land. I love and respect our country’s constitution.  While upholding these precepts I hold dear, I find I am also able to show compassion for those clients I serve. I do this by protecting their rights that our great country affords them.  I do this by treating them with the respect that all human beings deserve. I do this by seeking fair and equitable justice as their legal advocate. I find this compassion is as equally important as the letter of the law.  As I reflect my personal philosophies, I can’t help but wonder at the direction our country’s legal system is heading. Are we abandoning compassion for justice and order? Is there indeed room for both? There have been several recent events that I’ve been pondering lately.

On April 11, 2017 Attorney General Jeff Sessions issued a Memorandum for all federal prosecutors. He urged federal prosecutors to “focus on criminal cases that will further reduce illegality.” Calling for “consistent and vigorous enforcement” of key immigration laws. The laws he truly focused on were 8 U.S.C. § 1324 “bringing in and harboring certain aliens” and related offenses. Priority was to be given to section 1327 “aiding or assisting criminal aliens to enter,” and section 1328 “importation of aliens for immoral purposes.” I promote measures that in good conscience dissuade illegal activities, but question extreme implementations of such measures.

In a recent NPR article by Lorne Matalon, three current criminal immigration case studies were examined. The first, Scott Warren, a college geography instructor and volunteer with a group called No Mas Muertes (No More Deaths) was arrested and is facing three felony charges including conspiracy to transport and harbor migrants. No Mas Muertes leaves jugs of water in the desert along migrant trails to help prevent dehydration and exposure, leading causes of death among migrants in the Arizona border deserts. Warren, from Ajo, Arizona was allegedly seen talking with two migrants who sheltered in Ajo. Warren denies any participation in sheltering plans, and counters that his First Amendment religious freedom is being violated.  He asserts that the government has turned his spiritual belief (of assisting those in distress) into a criminal act. 

In the second example, an elected city and county attorney from Marfa, Texas, Teresa Todd, is under investigation for human smuggling because she stopped to help three ailing migrants in February 2019. Todd noted that one young man was pleading for aid, explaining that his sister, 18 year old Esmeralda, was in trouble. Todd sheltered the migrants in her car, as she tried to contact a friend, a legal counsel for the local Border Patrol. Before Todd reached her friend, a sheriff’s deputy arrived and called the Border Patrol. Todd was soon being read her Miranda warnings. Eight days later a Department of Homeland Security (DHS) investigator served a search warrant for her cellphone at Todd’s office. She was told that her phone would be returned in a matter of hours. The sheriff of Presidio County, Danny Dominguez stated that anyone with undocumented migrants in their car risks arrest, even if the vehicle is not moving. Todd’s phone was held for 53 days before finally being returned. Esmeralda was told by doctors that she was on the brink of death by the time she got to the hospital. 

Finally is Ana Adlersteina.  She is a U.S. citizen and volunteer at a Mexican migrant shelter. Adlerstein wanted to observe the process of seeking asylum, so she decided to accompany an asylum seeker from Sonora, Mexico to the border crossing at Lukeville, Arizona to experience the process. Instead, Adlerstein was accused of human smuggling and detained at the border for several hours. The border official had been previously told that a U.S. citizen would be accompanying an asylum seeker that day. Current law allows for a migrant to request asylum once they step onto U.S. soil.

Thus far, only Warren is facing criminal charges, however, Adlerstein has received subsequent calls from DHS investigators and Todd is still waiting to find out if she will be indicted for human smuggling. Their lives are in the balance as I write this, at the mercy of our ever evolving justice system.

I am a Christian, a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I often find myself reconciling between my Christian faith and my legal logic. I tell my clients before they hire me that I will protect their rights, but not defend their actions. As I read this NPR article, I was reminded of the biblical story of the “Good Samaritan.” Sometimes we forget that those human beings most affected by the letter of the law still deserve human decency and dignity. Are we forgetting that most of our ancestors were once immigrants, many coming into the country illegally themselves? Our Lady Liberty still proudly stands, declaring to the world “Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free.” I firmly believe in protecting the rule of law, but in many cases like those above, maybe compassion and common sense has a bigger precedence. If we continue to punish people for helping others, how will that influence the moral fabric of our society? And at what point does our basic humanity degrade completely?

Question: I was told I can’t be on my company’s auto policy because I have a ticket. Can I have the record sealed?

In order to completely answer this question, first we need to clarify a few things. In Nevada, there are only three categories of criminal activity:

  1. Felonies
  2. Gross misdemeanors
  3. Misdemeanors

Many other states will have different levels, including infractions or citations. If you receive any kind of citation in Nevada, it is a misdemeanor citation. So, anytime you are “found guilty” through pleading (which includes just paying a ticket in the mail) or through trial, that is equivalent to being convicted of a misdemeanor.

To quote one of my favorite bands, “I hope you know this will go down on your permanent record.” But don’t get distressed, there are ways to fix it. The most thorough and permanent fix is a governor’s pardon. This works for all crimes and will completely wipe off the incident from your record, restoring any rights that may have been lost through conviction. Of course, for most misdemeanors, this is completely overkill and unnecessary. Although because a governor’s pardon restores ALL rights (whereas a sealing of record doesn’t), it can greatly benefit with domestic battery convictions which affects gun rights.) In Nevada, we have the ability to seal a record, in other states this is called expunging a record, the end result is essentially the same. After a record is sealed, and the notices are sent out, the record will be permanently altered in such a way that MOST people will not be able to see it.

It is important to note that there are certain crimes that may not be sealed, such as crimes against a child, sexual offenses, felony driving under the influence, etc. Also, cases must be sealed in order, newest to oldest, although courts are now allowing for multiple sealings at the same time.

Before a record can be sealed, ANY and ALL sentencing requirements (including paying fees, community service, prison, parole, probation, etc) must be completed FIRST. Then the time period can begin that’s required for sealing that record. In other words, when all ties to the court sentencing and penal system have been finished, then the time starts to countdown for eligibility of record sealing.

Different convictions have different waiting periods before their record can be sealed:

  • 10 YEARS:
    • Category A felonies (things like murder, trafficking, and kidnapping)
  • 7 YEARS:
    • Crimes of financial and fraudulent use of services
  • 5 YEARS:
    • Category B felonies (grand larceny, home invasion, etc.)
    • Category C felonies (possession of a stolen vehicle, elder abuse, child pornography, etc)
    • Category D felonies (involuntary manslaughter, forgery, perjury, etc)
  • 2 YEARS:
    • Category E felonies.
    • Gross misdemeanors (crimes that are punishable by up to 364 days in jail)
  • 1 YEAR:
    • Most misdemeanors (petty offenses that are punishable by no more than 6 months in jail)

If you were arrested and the case was either dismissed or you were acquitted at trial, you can immediately petition to have the arrest record sealed.

So, back to the initial question above, YES, you can have your traffic ticket sealed, if you’ve met the sentencing requirements, and waited the specified time period (usually 1 year for most simple traffic violations). If you decide to try the process yourself, there are online instructions to help.

While sealing records is not hard work, but it can be quite complicated and tedious work. It reminds me of doing taxes in that way. There is also the risk of completing the paperwork incorrectly. Just like taxes, there can be repercussions for making mistakes in the process. For sealing of records, a mistake could cost an extra year before the record is eligible to be sealed. So, just like with taxes, sometimes it may be worth hiring a company, or a trusted attorney to assist in these matters.


July 4th has always been one of my favorite holidays. I was always fascinated by the Revolutionary War. Concord and Lexington. Guerilla warfare. The ultimate underdog. Farmers, blacksmiths, normal people standing up against a corrupt government and fighting for rights. These freedoms and rights are the reason I love the law. The Constitution is an amazing document that has molded who I really am and why I enjoy working within the legal system. This is a day celebrated by an entire nation in one fashion or another, often times with food, alcohol, and explosives.

As a criminal defense attorney, the rights that were carved out during 1776 and the subsequent years are what my work life is all about. Currently I deal greatly with the Fourth and Fifth Amendments, specifically the Search and Seizure Clause and the Privilege against Self-Incrimination. As we celebrate this Summer, whether Independence Day, Hot August Nights, Rib Cook-Off, or Street Vibrations, let’s keep ourselves and Reno safe.  I know we have all  heard this before, but if planning to drink, don’t drive. Uber and Lyft are everywhere, install the application on your phone. Taxis roam the streets of Reno with regularity as well, Reno Taxi Cab (775)333-3333, Whittlesea Checker Taxi (775)322-2222, and Reno Lake Tahoe Transportation (775)813-0814 to name a few. Often times Reno provides free rides for certain holidays or special occasions. If you plan on drinking remember to give your keys to someone who isn’t. Also maybe let someone else light off those fireworks because alcohol and explosive entertainment aren’t the best mix either. 

Prevention is the best, however sometimes the best plans still go awry.  So if you find yourself pulled off to the side of the road with the red and blue lights flashing behind you, I have some advice for that as well. This is where the rights that our forefathers bought with their blood come into play. Your right to remain silent is exactly what you need to remember during these times. The police are not looking to “exonerate you” or “make sure you are safe to drive.”  They are investigating and collecting evidence. Keep your mouth closed. The field sobriety tests (divided attention and balance) that they will ask you to preform are not going to help you. And in spite of what they will tell you, those tests are not required and you will not lose your license. However, your driver’s license will be revoked if you refuse of a preliminary/evidentiary breath test or a blood test. Law enforcement cannot have you do the evidentiary tests without reasonable suspicion that you are driving under the influence of alcohol or drugs. That is a fight that belongs in the courtroom, not on the roadside. My job is to defend your rights. If you find yourself in trouble, call me and let me assist you through troubled times like these.

I wish us all an enjoyable and safe summer! Happy Fourth!